Wednesday, June 7, 2017

Krista Lynn Sandstrom

Krista Lynn Sandstrom 
February 19, 1970 –June 1, 2017
Forty-Seven Years

Courage is more exhilarating than fear
and in the long run it is easier.

We do not become heroes overnight,
but rather one step at a time,

meeting each thing that arises,
discovering it is not as dreadful

as it appeared and discovering we
 have the strength to stare it down.
Eleanor Roosevelt    

Photographic Scenes from Krista's Life

Krista's YouTube Memorial

The Victim Impact Statement I read before the Judge, our children and Krista's Killer here:

KRISTA LYNN SANDSTROM of St. Paul was killed in a traffic accident in downtown Minneapolis on June 1, 2017. Krista was born on February 19, 1970 to Charles and Deanna Barks Sandstrom in Northfield, MN. She was united in marriage to Xenia Sandstrom-McGuire on October 2, 1993. She was preceded in death by her mother. Survived by her spouse, her son Soren and daughter Birgitta, her father and his wife Dianne Kelly, her brother Scott Sandstrom and step siblings, Kathy Kelly, Amy Kelly, Anne Kelly Berg and Bill Kelly, and many friends and relatives.
Krista graduated from Northfield High School and received her undergraduate degrees in History and Anthropology with a minor in Classical Civilizations from Luther College in Decorah, Iowa. She obtained her M.Ed and Ph.D from the University of Minnesota and was employed as Director of Organization Development and Learning for Hennepin County Medical Center. 

Music played a great role in her life. She was a contracted singer with the Minnesota Chorale and sang regularly with her spouse as a member of the New Prescriptions. As an instrumentalist, she played oboe and bassoon, and was learning violin so she could play along with her children for their June 8th recital. Krista recently purchased a mandolin which she hoped would add to her involvement with music.  She loved dance, as well. She choreographed dances, set up mirrors and a ballet bar in her living room, and recently began taking Saturday morning ballet classes. 
Krista practiced environmental conservation and responsible living. The front yard of the family home is decorated with native Minnesota wild flowers and grasses while the back yard is becoming a haven for birds, butterflies, and bees. Krista was an active supporter of rescue animals, Heifer International, and other organizations focusing on humane activities. 

Visitation will be held for Krista at the MUELLER-BIES FUNERAL HOME-ROSEVILLE, 2130 North Dale St. @ Co. Rd B, Thursday, June 8, 4 – 8 PM. 
An open gathering is planned on Friday, June 9, between the hours of 11:00 AM and 2:00 PM with a short program featuring the Minnesota Chorale is scheduled for noon at the Muriel Sahlin Arboretum, 2525 North Dale Street, Roseville, MN. 
Those attending may bring a sack lunch and lawn chairs. Water, coffee, and cookies will be provided. Feel free to bring an instrument and your singing voice for impromptu special music and conversation. Memorials may be designated for the children's education, to the Minnesota Chorale, 528 Hennepin Ave #407, Minneapolis, MN 55403 or to the family. MUELLER-BIES 651487-2550

Celebration Of Life
2525 North Dale Street
Roseville, Minnesota

Friday, June 9, 2017
 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM
Program at 12:00 Noon

Memorials may be designated
to the children’s education,
or to the family

The Endless Knot for Two Entwined in One Love.
Xenia to her Bride on October 2, 1993
The Wedding of Krista Lynn Sandstrom to Xenia Sandstrom-McGuire, October 2, 1993
Dunning Springs, Decorah, Iowa


The Sandstrom-McGuire's 
Christmas 2016
The Sandstrom-McGuire's
January 4th, 1992


Here is a lovely piece regarding the positive impact Krista had upon us all. 

Here is the WCCO interview in which I share our children's perspective on their mother’s death.

What I wrote to friends and family on June 3rd, 2017
"Finally as a request, though I feel sad and angry...Do not hate.  Do not hate the driver who killed my wife.  Thoughts of Hatred and vengeance and fear stem from weakness and cowardice.  When so often on Social media we are losing the capacity to connect. We no longer engage in conversation where we dedicate our minds and senses to each other and build strong memories.  Instead we talk at each other through screens and become indignant as digital soundbites prick our most base passions. It is the negative emotions and deflections of responsibility that often rise to the surface.
These are unproductive and are not the values my bride and I wanted for the world in which our children live.
So in Honor of Krista Lynn Sandstrom and her children - Do not blame the judge who released the driver. The judge did not kill my wife.  The judge was not responsible for the actions of this driver.  It was the driver who made the bad decision which led to her death.
Yes it is painful and I continue to swing through emotions and cry ---- and I sincerely appreciate your care thoughts and sharing your pain and emotions with me.  But lets seek Harmonia – Love – lifting each other up to excel in our diverse talents – not to compete against each other.  We want to live the Values and Virtues we teach.

[November 17, 2017] Victim Impact Statement I read before the Judge, our children and Krista's Killer here:

[June 20, 2017] Destruction is Easy, Creation is the Greater Power

[July 17, 2017] Anthropology, Coaching, and Raising Children

[July 31, 2017] Love, Friendship, and Harmony

[September 23, 2017] Living Her Values

[October 29, 2017] Call for Victim Impact Statements

[December 21, 2017] Winter Solstice - Sandstrom-McGuires

[January 24, 2018] Experiencing True Grief

[January 22, 2018] Final Serenade for Krista

[November 30, 2018] Krista's Aria: Zerfließe, mein Herze, in Fluten der Zähren

[January 11, 2019] The Bass Chooses the Player